Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 12:00 AM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:48 AM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
Great news! Hope healing is speedy!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 5:35 AM on Sunday, June 21st, 2026
Happy to hear it! Wishing him an uncomplicated recovery!
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 10:23 AM on Monday, June 22nd, 2026
I bet this hardship will bring you both a little bit closer.
Nice to hear it all turned well.
A toast 🥂 to you both.
You are welcome to send me a PM if you think I can help you. I respond when I can.
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 5:04 AM on Tuesday, June 23rd, 2026
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 1:11 PM on Tuesday, June 23rd, 2026
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
Gemmy ( member #86765) posted at 10:04 PM on Friday, June 26th, 2026
I am just thinking about you and hope everything is going well at home. Sending love and prayers for you and your family
Betrayed but trying to stand for the family. ME: 45 M DDay Oct.18 2025- April 2026 Two LTA EA/PA first 2 years second 1 year - 14 years apart.
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 4:03 AM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
Just saw this thread! I'm so glad to hear the surgery went well. Sending healing vibes and hopes for a speedy recovery.
hikingout (original poster member #59504) posted at 1:11 AM on Sunday, June 28th, 2026
Hello—- good to see you BSR!
And thanks for everyone checking in.
He is doing really great. His energy isn’t all there yet but we are taking daily outings and walks. We went to the store this morning and he took a giant nap after. But all his numbers are good, he is uncomfortable sometimes trying to sleep but we ordered a new bed to see if we can fix that. My garden is starting to produce so he is getting lots of fresh fruit and veggies! It is my little daily joy to go out and see what I can find to put in his meals. I picture it energizing him like Popeye. Lol!
I think we miss each other in a weird way, even though I don’t leave him. Not sure how to describe it but we simply aren’t in our normal roles I do see him get just a little better every single day and I think he is going to recover well under a normal time frame.
Overall, I don’t think it could have gone any better than it has. I am sure in a few months he will be as good as new.
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WS and BS - Reconciled
Mine 2017
His 2020
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 2:36 PM on Sunday, June 28th, 2026
I am glad the recovery is going well.
As to "normal roles" — I am starting to wonder if normal anything exists anymore.
The new normal, as we all age, seems to be constant change.
But it does seem to help when there is someone there to hear us vent about all this wacky life and health stuff, and it sounds like you two will find a way as he heals up.
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:55 PM on Sunday, June 28th, 2026
If it means anything, my W is dealing with a broken wrist, so there are things I do that she's always done. We're a bit disoriented.
When she's out of her splint, I'm going to tell her that washing pots and pans - a task we used to share that I've been doing exclusively for 5 (whole) weeks - is good exercise for her wrist.
I would expect anything related to open-heart surgery to not be normal. But if your H's numbers are good, and his docs are happy, and if he's optimistic, the new normal may be pretty good....
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fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
