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So what I wrote is what I did with her, and right now I'm completely focused on improving for my W and the relationship, which is happening right now, believe it or not.

Based on the quote below, I'm going with "not."

What should I do? Should I give in to the impulse with the idea of "one last time"?

Those 2 sentences are in complete opposition to each other. I've spent the last year actually learning about the chemistry of, and what goes on in the mind of a cheater, and the cognitive dissonance on display here still just astounds me. Here you seem to be pretty "focused" on something else that has nothing to do with "improving for my W and the relationship."

I don't really have much more to add beyond that. I highly doubt it as OP seems to have tucked tail and bailed, but I'm hoping the 2×4 might knock something loose...

[This message edited by Pogre at 11:33 PM, Wednesday, April 29th]

I don't really have much more to add beyond that. I highly doubt it as OP seems to have tucked tail and bailed, but I'm hoping the 2×4 might knock something loose...

Brother,

Only thing knocking something loose in this one is the OW betrayed partner catching up on the wuss for 5 minutes.

Did you ever see the face of certain kind of people when they get confronted in person?

Is priceless. But always looks much better after you improve it.

He is on Reddit asking for clues how not to get caught again, we will not see him again

[This message edited by BackfromtheStorm at 9:43 AM, Friday, May 1st]

Did you ever see the face of certain kind of people when they get confronted in person?

I didn't see the face of my wife's AP because the night I drove over to confront I didn't know his unit number, but I was told later when my wife said "my husband is here" he immediately turned pale and said "Oh shit! Oh shit! Oh shit!"

I would loved to have seen the look on his face in that moment. He was probably looking for the nearest bed to hide under.

I looked at the timeline of your relationship. You were 18 so you zipped right through your 20s without cheating so why now? Ah, yes. The age old "We have so much chemistry" excuse. There are over 8 billion people on the planet. 4 billion are females. There would be chemistry with many of them.
It is time to look at yourself realistically. Do you love your wife more than you crave the OW, or the reverse? You can’t have it both ways. Your wife is going to fall apart at some point. Your AP is going to dump you or demand a commitment from you. I think there is some law in physics about things constantly on the move. One of the things we hope to have in our lives is a stable relationship. You just pulled the rug out from under your wife’s stability.
Make a decision. Be a grownup.