gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 8:18 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
I do believe she's remorseful and feels really, truly guilty for what's happened
I’m sorry OP. It still seems you’re equating feeling guilty with remorse. It’s not. Feeling guilty is her being focussed on herself. Feeling guilty is not remorse, but instead regret. I urge you to do a deep dive on true remorse.
Here’s a start: true remorse would be her focusing on YOUR pain.
It’s your life, and ofc you’re in charge of your decisions, but understanding what true remorse looks like is absolutely essential to evaluate whether she actually is a good candidate for R. Downplay this at your peril.
[This message edited by gr8ful at 8:20 PM, Saturday, June 27th]
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:21 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
All decisions made by human beings are based on the deciding human being's feelings.
Logic is the servant of our feelings.
All decisions come down to, 'I want THIS.'
Just sayin'....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
